Let's start by saying I kind of hate comment moderation on blogs. It leads to stilted conversations and adds up to a lot of work for the blogger. Sometimes I'm up for a great conversation, and sometimes I want to just dump my thoughts out and leave them there. Having moderated comments makes you revisit old posts you're just sort of done with, and it ties you to your blog in a way that makes me slightly uncomfortable.
For the first time ever I've turned on the comment moderating feature here. And this is because I finally had to, after being cyberstalked and threatened by an Angry Entitled Asshole of a Commenter.
And blog etiquette seems to dictate that now I have to articulate a Comment Policy, right? If you're going to moderate comments, it's only fair that you clearly lay out what flies and what dies, it seems. The thing is, I'm not going to do that. Mostly because I don't want to, and forcing myself to do something that I won't enjoy and don't feel like I should have to do just sort of feels like doing homework. But also because this is my. fucking. space. and allowing a misogynistic entitled bullying asshole to come in here and force me to do things I don't want to do feels sort of ... out of line with feminist ideals, to say the least. Beyond that, I'm not sure why any blogger owes a Comment Policy to the public at large. If you're coming into my home, and your shoes are all muddy, and you demand an explanation of me when I ask you to take your fucking shoes off, then you're not really the kind of person I want in my house, anyway, so please leave. Now.